Negotiate your life  
with confidence

Revamp how you move through the world with Vokative

Conflict resolution and negotiation coaching for individuals and groups

Life is negotiation. What are you asking for?

You want:
What is vokative about?
To gracefully navigate complicated interactions - within yourself and with others.
To express yourself with intention and integrity.
To make decisions that align with your values, your goals, and your well-being.

There is always a way


Vokative coaching equips you to show up with confidence and integrity no matter what.

"Essie was the most informative and kind mentor during my mediation practicum. She showed me the importance of asking why in every situation. Her passion to help mediate others’ problems, big or small, shines through with every conversation. I’m so glad I had the opportunityto work directly with Essie to learn valuable conflict resolution skills that I use in my personal and professional life.

E.T.S.

Attorney

Essie's coaching had even more of an impact on my life than I expected. It cleared my way forward. I learned universal techniques that I apply everywhere, across personal, cultural, and business settings.  After working with Essie I feel much braver in approaching conflictual situations. It's also gotten easier just to talk to people in general. Essie's warmth, humanity, and personality made me feel very secure and I felt comfortable trusting her with every detail of my situation. I highly recommend Essie's coaching.

H.A.

Law Librarian

Working with Essie made me a better communicator. She taught me methods of speaking with clarity and confidence, something I always struggled with when talking about myself. Thanks to our sessions, I have become a stronger advocate for myself and this has helped me move up in my career.

Aya

Creative Strategist

"Essie Martsinkovsky is a professional, attentive, and incredibly enjoyable mentor who is well-versed in the nuances of dispute resolution. In addition to her expertise in the field, she has genuine passion and motivation to see her trainees excel. As a result of Essie’s mentorship, I advanced as a certified conflict resolution specialist and developed both critical thinking and interpersonal skills that propelled me in my career trajectory. I highly recommend Essie for her services and mentorship"

Emi

Doctoral Student in Psychology

E.T.S.
Attorney

"Essie was the most informative and kind mentor during my mediation practicum. She showed me the importance of asking why in every situation. Her passion to help mediate others’ problems, big or small, shines through with every conversation. I’m so glad I had the opportunity to work directly with Essie to learn valuable conflict resolution skills that I use in my personal and professional life."

Aya
Creative Strategist

"Working with Essie made me a better communicator. She taught me methods of speaking with clarity and confidence, something I always struggled with when talking about myself. Thanks to our sessions, I have become a stronger advocate for myself and this has helped me move up in my career."

Emi
Doctoral Student in Psychology

"Essie Martsinkovsky is a professional, attentive, and incredibly enjoyable mentor who is well-versed in the nuances of dispute resolution. In addition to her expertise in the field, she has genuine passion and motivation to see her trainees excel. As a result of Essie’s mentorship, I advanced as a certified conflict resolution specialist and developed both critical thinking and interpersonal skills that propelled me in my career trajectory. I highly recommend Essie for her services and mentorship"

H.A.
Law Librarian

Essie's coaching had even more of an impact on my life than I expected. It cleared my way forward. I learned universal techniques that I apply everywhere, across personal, cultural, and business settings.  After working with Essie I feel much braver in approaching conflictual situations. It's also gotten easier just to talk to people in general. Essie's warmth, humanity, and personality made me feel very secure and I felt comfortable trusting her with every detail of my situation. I highly recommend Essie's coaching.

"Essie was the most informative and kind mentor during my mediation practicum. She showed me the importance of asking why in every situation. Her passion to help mediate others’ problems, big or small, shines through with every conversation. I’m so glad I had the opportunityto work directly with Essie to learn valuable conflict resolution skills that I use in my personal and professional life.

E.T.S.

Attorney

Essie's coaching had even more of an impact on my life than I expected. It cleared my way forward. I learned universal techniques that I apply everywhere, across personal, cultural, and business settings.  After working with Essie I feel much braver in approaching conflictual situations. It's also gotten easier just to talk to people in general. Essie's warmth, humanity, and personality made me feel very secure and I felt comfortable trusting her with every detail of my situation. I highly recommend Essie's coaching.

H.A.

Law Librarian

Working with Essie made me a better communicator. She taught me methods of speaking with clarity and confidence, something I always struggled with when talking about myself. Thanks to our sessions, I have become a stronger advocate for myself and this has helped me move up in my career.

Aya

Creative Strategist

"Essie Martsinkovsky is a professional, attentive, and incredibly enjoyable mentor who is well-versed in the nuances of dispute resolution. In addition to her expertise in the field, she has genuine passion and motivation to see her trainees excel. As a result of Essie’s mentorship, I advanced as a certified conflict resolution specialist and developed both critical thinking and interpersonal skills that propelled me in my career trajectory. I highly recommend Essie for her services and mentorship"

Emi

Doctoral Student in Psychology

E.T.S.
Attorney

"Essie was the most informative and kind mentor during my mediation practicum. She showed me the importance of asking why in every situation. Her passion to help mediate others’ problems, big or small, shines through with every conversation. I’m so glad I had the opportunityto work directly with Essie to learn valuable conflict resolution skills that I use in my personal and professional life."

Aya
Creative Strategist

"Working with Essie made me a better communicator. She taught me methods of speaking with clarity and confidence, something I always struggled with when talking about myself. Thanks to our sessions, I have become a stronger advocate for myself and this has helped me move up in my career."

Emi
Doctoral Student in Psychology

"Essie Martsinkovsky is a professional, attentive, and incredibly enjoyable mentor who is well-versed in the nuances of dispute resolution. In addition to her expertise in the field, she has genuine passion and motivation to see her trainees excel. As a result of Essie’s mentorship, I advanced as a certified conflict resolution specialist and developed both critical thinking and interpersonal skills that propelled me in my career trajectory. I highly recommend Essie for her services and mentorship"

H.A.
Law Librarian

Essie's coaching had even more of an impact on my life than I expected. It cleared my way forward. I learned universal techniques that I apply everywhere, across personal, cultural, and business settings.  After working with Essie I feel much braver in approaching conflictual situations. It's also gotten easier just to talk to people in general. Essie's warmth, humanity, and personality made me feel very secure and I felt comfortable trusting her with every detail of my situation. I highly recommend Essie's coaching.

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Ready to change the habits that no longer serve you?

Vokative coaching is here to support you. Grounded in the principles of conflict resolution and driven by the values of authenticity and integrity, our work together is a guided negotiation—with yourself.

We’ll uncover the unspoken agreements shaping your current choices, challenge outdated patterns, and co-create a new way of being that aligns with who you are becoming. Whether you're breaking a sugar habit, building confidence in your relationships, or channeling your energy into a fresh project or purpose—everything is up for renegotiation. To get started:

Choose your adventure
Explore the coaching packages below and find the one that resonates.

Say hello
Schedule a free discovery call so we can explore what's happening, what's holding you back, and what's possible.

Step into change
Begin your coaching journey to start negotiating a life that truly fits.

How it works

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Think on your feet

Identify your needs and goals

Why are you here? What dynamics are you experiencing that you would like to change? We will have an in-depth discussion of the experience and circumstances that bring you to coaching, and you will define your goals.

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Creating a coaching plan

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Engage

Time for action!

We will unpack conflict resolution concepts, reflect on new learnings and experiences, and PRACTICE through theater games and roleplay. You will be challenged to think on your feet, embody your learning, and make it part of your muscle memory.

Hey there!

Hi! I’m Essie.

I am a conflict resolution practitioner of 10+ years, a certified health and life coach, and a proud first-generation American. I firmly believe that effective negotiation skills are a pillar of health and well-being for individuals and communities, and I'm passionate about helping people build those skills.



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Frequently asked questions

What is coaching?
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Coaching is YOUR growth process, guided by me via interventions that support your self-awareness, inherent wisdom, and capacity for growth. What we do in sessions will be a combination of dialogue and experiential exercises tailored to your desired outcome. Your vision and intention will define where we go. The coaching process will support you in getting there.  

Is coaching a type of therapy?
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Coaching is not therapy, although it should absolutely feel emotionally nourishing and therapeutic! A coach does not have medical or mental health expertise (unless they are also a doctor or therapist) and is not equipped to diagnose or help you navigate mental health challenges. That said, the changes that result from coaching can absolutely transform your experience of yourself and your life, just as therapy can.

What is the outcome of coaching?
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What you get out depends on what you put in. As with coaching for sport, music, language learning, etc., you build capacity and skill through practice. I ask that you to commit to showing up, engaging wholeheartedly, and challenging yourself to transform insight into action. If you do that, I can promise that you will become a powerful and agile negotiator of your life!

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